From a professional and personal experience, I know how painful and hurting breaking up can be. One of the major agonies of break-up is worrying about the future, the pain, how long will it take to get over it. You know, there are so many things to worry about especially if children are involved. You want to think about your finances, moving home, the divorce process, childcare, etc. Depending on your status quo, it is so unfortunate that you may have to deal with the pains of breakup when you are broken hearted. If you are the one being rejected, it may feel like your two legs have been cut from underneath you. Please note it is logical to cry, get angry, disappointed, anxious and depressed.
A lot of people do amusing things after breakup like playing old love music while others stay imagining. It is so obvious that these are wrong approaches to get over breakup. You will never recover when you keep envisaging how life used to be. You are trying to forget someone, stop thinking of them. It may be difficult, but you don’t have any other choice, you just have to stop thinking of them. It may be very correct that keeping yourself busy tend to make you forget the person, but please note that as soon as you gain consciousness, all the memories will be back. How long can you continue to do this? Highlighted below are some steps on how to get over a breakup:
(1) You Need Time
Getting over a break up will take time. You need to give yourself time to get over it. It will be a great mistake to put yourself under a time limit as this will definitely increase the pressure. Allow nature to take its course and sooner or later you will start smiling.
(2) Do Not Deny It
To successfully get over breakups, you need to accept the fact that the person is gone. It is only then the process of recovering can start successfully. People tend to get over grief easily because they know the person cannot come back again. Just accept the fact that the relationship is over, and then you will be amazed how quick the recovery process will be.
(3) Don’t Be Afraid to Let Go
This is the most vital step in getting over a breakup. You, without delay, just have to let go. It is difficult,
it is hard, but you have to. You just have to deal with every form of anger that you may feel. As a matter of fact, things happen for a purpose. He or she might be better off at the end, though, it may be too hard to understand.
(4) Fine-tune Your Viewpoint
You know what; you have to start enjoying your own company. Do not blame yourself all the time; it may lead to self-destructive behaviors. Be upbeat and positive, you will soon wake up one day and realize you are good.
(5) There are Alternatives
People find it difficult to get over breakups because they think their partners are the only one for them. This concept will hinder you from getting over it because you will be focusing on getting that person back instead of trying to pull through and move on. If a relationship cannot continue because the person is now in the past, I see no reason why you cannot get yourself another partner. There are many others out there that can fit in perfectly and make you a happy person you want to be. Please learn to look elsewhere. Start interacting and socializing with others and sooner or later you will realize there are many others who can show you the real sense of true love.
Finally, please, forgive him or her. Though, this is one of the toughest steps. Do not rush it; it will take time, just try. At the end, you may even realize that there was a purpose for the breakup.
In conclusion, it is pertinent to note that the happiest people are those who give generously to others. Focusing on others` needs will help shift your mood and your thinking from being a victim to being one who empowers others.